COMFORT
Become a Source of Comfort
Several years ago, standing in line at the grocery store, a little guy, maybe four, was playing with the shopping cart in front of me while his mom stood at the far end of the cart, putting items on the conveyor belt. The cart moved, and the boy's finger got bruised between the cart handle and the candy rack.

As he began to cry, I braced myself, anticipating a scene I had witnessed too often. I expected the mom to get mad. I could hear the words, "Didn't I tell you not to do that!" in my head. 

But she didn't. She came around the cart and put her arms around her son. 
Within thirty seconds he was calmer. She asked him what happened, and he showed her his finger. "It's red," she said with concern and validation. "You must have hurt it." Then she kissed his finger, finished paying her bill, and they left, happy.

When we comfort ourselves instead of yelling at ourselves for being in distress, the distress moves through us more quickly. As the Buddhists say, "Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

If it would feel good, try noticing the tendency to ignore, dismiss, or judge your distress and validate instead. See what happens.
Be compassionate.